At TN Mental Wellness, we help couples get out of the “negative” way of viewing each other and their relationship. We begin by creating a strong vision of how you would like your relationship to be and how things would ideally be when the problem is no longer a problem. This vision-creating process helps reconnect you to the good aspects of your relationship and your partner and encourages you to identify the aspects of yourself that need to change in order to move toward those positive changes.
No problem is always a problem in a relationship. Glimmers of positive, relaxed, passionate, and fun-loving times exist. When the sizzle seems to be gone from the relationship, we tend to point the finger at our partner, “If only they’d change X, Y or Z, then I’d be much happier / I’d be able to make the changes they’re wanting me to make.” In therapy, we unpack this fallacy, helping each partner acknowledge and own their role in creating the current challenges. Then, from the place of self-awareness and responsibility, we can rebuild respect, connection, and passion.
